“You’re not listening to me!” “Did you even hear what I said?” “Are you paying attention to what I’m saying?” “It feels like you’re just waiting for me to finish so you can dive in with your thoughts!” We’ve all been there, trying to talk to a distracted, disinterested, or defensive partner! It can be frustrating, disconnecting, and sometimes it feels rejecting. If we’re honest, we might have been the struggling listener as well. Why …
What Should I Do if My Partner Doesn’t Trust Me?
Why doesn’t my partner trust me? If you’ve asked this question recently—or frequently—I’m going to assume you haven’t given your partner valid reasons for being suspicious of your motivations or behavior (currently or recently involved in an affair, regularly hiding things from them, habitual lying, etc.). If you do these things, then you probably already have an answer to this question! So, you aren’t having an affair, you don’t lie to your partner or hide …
The Benefits of Couples Therapy vs. Individual Therapy.
Key Points: Which type of therapy is best for me? If you are in a committed romantic relationship, you’ve likely encountered some degree of tension with your partner. Whether it be personal struggles that your partner is privy to or difficulties between you two, stress is stress, and it can impact a couple. That being said, couples therapy is not always the fix for stress that impacts the couple, and “regular therapy” (individual therapy) is …
What is the Difference Between Pre-Marital Counseling and Marital Counseling?
Pre-Marital Counseling: What is it? Who is it for? What can we expect? Deciding to spend your life with someone is a huge commitment. Pre-marital counseling (or pre-engagement, pre-moving-in-together counseling) can help you strengthen the foundation of your relationship as you step into this meaningful next chapter of your life together. What is Pre-Marital Counseling? Pre-marital counseling is a building block for a successful future! Preparing for the big day with your significant other can …
Why is it So Hard to Ask for Help with My Marriage/Relationship?
Help- I need somebody (to save my marriage)! Why is it so hard to ask for help? Whether people are assembling furniture or stuck in a rut with their partner, asking for help can feel overwhelming- or even impossible. Asking for help is hard, even for small stuff. So, it can feel even harder when you are thinking of asking for help with something big, like your relationship. Below are five common barriers to seeking …