“You’re not listening to me!” “Did you even hear what I said?” “Are you paying attention to what I’m saying?” “It feels like you’re just waiting for me to finish so you can dive in with your thoughts!” We’ve all been there, trying to talk to a distracted, disinterested, or defensive partner! It can be frustrating, disconnecting, and sometimes it feels rejecting. If we’re honest, we might have been the struggling listener as well. Why …
What Should I Do if My Partner Doesn’t Trust Me?
Why doesn’t my partner trust me? If you’ve asked this question recently—or frequently—I’m going to assume you haven’t given your partner valid reasons for being suspicious of your motivations or behavior (currently or recently involved in an affair, regularly hiding things from them, habitual lying, etc.). If you do these things, then you probably already have an answer to this question! So, you aren’t having an affair, you don’t lie to your partner or hide …
The “Unwinnable” Fights – What They Are & How We Resolve Them in Couples Therapy
Seven Steps to Addressing Unwinnable Fights & How Couples Therapy Can Help Unwinnable arguments are baked into all long-term relationships and marriages. Like the certainty of death and taxes, you can expect ongoing arguments that sometimes become gridlocked if you’re in a long-term relationship or marriage. We handle these issues in many ways. We can: No matter the strategy, the issue(s) we fight about keep popping up, often with the same results—frustration, hurt feelings, and …