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Why Fighting About the Same Old Thing Leads to Avoidance

This three part blog series is inspired by the numerous couples I have seen who have graciously trusted me to help them process and solve their conflict. Conflicts, arguments, fights, whatever you want to call them, expose us. We extend parts of our hearts in hopes of connecting with our partner just to get pushed away. Doing so over and over is exhausting, painful, and overwhelming. In this series we will first unpack why perpetual conflict arises in relationships, then discuss why it’s worth it to take a new and different approach to arguments, and we’ll end with how to do so. Let’s begin.

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We Can’t Communicate—Or At Least That’s What We Tell Ourselves

It is unlikely that you and your partner can’t communicate. It just seems that way. Before you click out of this article and chalk up the first line to the musings of a deranged or incompetent counselor, hear me out. Yes, for some couples, communication could be a major problem—but that’s unlikely in your case. Here’s why……